Move from Broken to Whole

Move from Broken to Whole

Life flows in a fluid motion. There is no fixed, clear cut pattern to reach the goals and lifestyle desired. Sometimes life feels broken. Other times our actions result in feelings of wholeness.

Everyone’s ultimate aim is total blissful happiness. According to Lifehack’s author Amy Johnson, in a survey 56%  of the people say they are happy. But is it safe to say that most people who are happy also use proper strategies and techniques to overcome what is broken.

Broken: My world is falling apart!

When faced with failure, we often think nothing can or will ever go right. Everything is crumbling around you. There is no way to escape it.

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Wholeness: Making positive connections with your mind, body and soul increases strength and stamina. Once harmony and inner peace occurs, “you’ve developed certain coping mechanisms that allowed you to survive” (Neseret, 7 Steps to Wholeness- Holistic approach in Treatment of Mental Illness and Addiction).

Broken: I am too ugly for a husband/ wife.

Self- defeating thoughts will cause you to look in the mirror and be disgusted at what you see. Negative thoughts arrive from toxic relationships and interactions that weaken you. Abuse is another avenue that yields self- defeating thoughts and behaviors.

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Wholeness: You already possess all of the beauty inside to find your perfect soulmate and life. Building confidence is the key to attracting someone who accepts and appreciates who you are now. The only person you owe a need to change to is yourself. Self- improvements are for you to boost to the next level in your life.

Broken: My boss does not like me.

Thoughts that someone else is hindering your success is faulty thinking. You are responsible for your own growth and success. Put some action steps in place and get it. Push, breathe, push and breathe over and over again until you get to where you want to be.

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Wholeness: Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses. Use your strengths to defeat your challenges. Use your strengths to live out your purpose. Living through who you truly are by aligning your strengths with your purpose is the formula to growth and eventually success.

Obviously even for those who profess true happiness, every day will not be peaches and cream. Getting from broken to wholeness requires the execution of an action plan. Gather your broken pieces bit by bit. Glue them back together with boldness and confidence that work in your best interest. Gleefully stride past obstacles with grace, spirit and solidarity. Your power will result in wholeness.

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Resource:

Johnson, Amy. Hacklife. 40 Little Things in Daily Life that Bring Us true Happiness. Web.        

           retrieved 15 August 2016.   

 Nesert. 7 Steps to Wholeness- Holistic Approach in Treatment of Mental Health and Addiction.

            www.nesert.com. 27 February 2013.

Essential Tools for Emotional Wellness

Essential Tools for Emotional Wellness

            There is nothing worse than waking up early in the morning and not wanting to get out of bed. You have a thriving career, loving family and bubbly friends but none of that pushes the button to make you gleefully jump up to get your day started. You hit the snooze button two times already. Then you lay there staring at the ceiling fan spin while dreading the start of the day.

            According to the University of California, “Emotional wellness implies the ability to be aware of and accept our feelings, rather than deny them, have an optimistic approach to life and enjoy life despite its occasional disappointments and frustrations”. Lying in bed for thirty extra minutes morning after morning solves nothing. What essential elements are needed to motivate you to rise and shine?

Essential Tool #1

            Evaluate emotional wellness. Ask yourself, “Is my life style working for me?” You should not spend too much attention to any one area of your life. Spread your time between work, family, you, leisure and whatever other arenas you may partake in. Sometimes there are exceptions to the rule and you may need to spend more time doing one activity versus another. Do not get overwhelmed with trying to leverage out your life.

Essential Tool #2

            Do not wallow in pity. Use positive thoughts and events to give you the mental boost in your mood. When something causes an emotional setback in motivation, to proceed use something upbeat such as an energizing song, a joke or watch a comedy show. it only takes a few minutes to snap back from a distressful moment.

Essential Tool #3

            My #1 favorite way to improve emotional wellness is through talking it out. A trusted friend can lend a caring ear that is often beneficial in lifting emotional burdens. Confiding in a professional therapist provides an in-depth analysis when self- assessments or peer support does not render the effect of an enlightened mood.

             The trials and tribulations experienced on a daily basis makes it hard to see the reasons to relax and enjoy the positive experiences. Mentally, life can drain the joy when not in touch with emotions, thoughts and feelings. The good news is that daily life does not have to drain your emotional energy. Get the essential tools you need to Push Pass Life.

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Reference:

University of California. “Emotional Wellness”. https://wellness.ucr.edu. 4 June 2014.

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How to Completely Change Your Viewpoint about Grief

How to Completely Change Your Viewpoint about Grief:

Win the Battles and the War

December 1, 1994. On this day, my mother passed away. She overdosed on her own prescription of psychotropic medications for depression. Ever since 1994, I have been plagued by a yearly shift of emotions that occur from October 31 (her birthday) until the 2^nd week of January (right after the holiday season).

            Only about 3 years ago, did I come to the realization that during those three months every year, I was experiencing grief. During those 3 months, since 1994, I will lose my energy for life. I do not want to be around or socialize with others. I feel drained for 3 whole months. I lose interest in my daily activities and holiday cheer. I undergo a unique expression of my grief.

The Battles

            Grief does not feel, look or unfold the same way for everyone. Grief does not have the same set schedule or duration for everyone. Your distinct personality, experiences and lifestyle has a huge impact on your cycle of grieving. Be comfortable in your unique way to express grief.

           

The War

            Managing grief after the loss of a loved one is an ongoing struggle. Grief becomes part of your lifestyle and sometimes daily living. Grief will not disappear but symptoms can feel seamlessly nonexistent if managed effectively. Management takes valuable time and active effort.

              Action Step #1:

Take care of yourself. Now that your loved one is no longer here, self- care is of the utmost importance. Other family members and loved ones are still here so being in the best of health is important. Emotional and physical health enables you to be a support system for them just as much as you need support from them.

            Action Step #2:

Be aware of your feelings. Know what triggers your grief. Just because your expression of feelings is not the same as someone else’s does not make it unusual. For example, I only grieve 3 months out of the year. Does that make my grieving process abnormal? Absolutely not! During those months, I implement the coping strategies that are effective for ME!

            It is acceptable to loss some battles on your way to war when handling grief. When symptoms such as guilt, fatigue, heaviness or depression strike, it is okay to take a day away from the world. It is okay to cry unexpectedly sometimes. It is okay to constantly think of the loved one you miss. Those occurrences are normal during the battles with grief. But pick yourself back up. Use coping strategies, support systems and professional counseling to overcome grief. Maintain and manage your strength to win the war.

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