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Domestic violence occurs in relationships
for two main reasons. One reason involves a distorted perception of self. The
abuser possesses a negative self- image which seeps over into the thoughts
possessed about the partner. Additionally, the abuser carries false perceptions
of relationship dynamics. The abuser does not know what an ideal partnership of respect entails. The cocktail of these two factors open the gateway to
harmful intimate relationships.
At the age
of 14, I experienced the perils of an abusive partner for five years. The five
years of verbal, physical and emotional abuse seemed like an eternity. Still
today, I wake up refreshed but with the daily struggle of continuously repairing the damage that the abuse played on my life. Every day, I am thankful for
the experience and for the strength that evolved thus creating the incredible
human being I am now.
I reflect on
the countless times I have been slapped and punched. I remember the many times
I was tainted by words that expressed worthlessness and unattractiveness. Images
of torture replay in my mind of the books I liked reading that were shredded; the newly purchased
clothes he threw away and my favorite collection of makeup hurled at me. Domestic violence was
a demon. I feel sorry for the perpetrator for thinking everything was wrong with
me and nothing was unstable within him.
Prayer was
my #1 weapon. I prayed to be removed from the horrible wrath of a person who
could not love. Solemn requests of rescue became my daily routine.
Along with
biblical rescue, I had to develop strength within and outside of myself. The
abuser was not the total blame for the pain I had endured. I was also to blame.
I allowed myself to be subjected to such insanity and disrespect. So I worked
on my ”self”: self- esteem, self- respect, self- image and self- love.
Once I had
my “self” together, I restructured my environment. I got out of the
relationship. I enrolled into college. I
focused on my new struggle as a single parent.
Are you faced with overcoming an abusive relationship? Here
are some helpful tips:
#1: Analyze your current situation. Come to terms with the
fact that the relationship is abusive.
#2: Analyze who you are. Reconnect with your “self”.
#3: Analyze your environment. Find positive outlets to
occupy your time to resist the temptation to return.
Regain your Life. Rebuild your Life.
Let GinMan Consulting guide you through an abusive
relationship.
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