(Guest Blogger- Erica Fulton) Power of a Voice

Power of a Voice

The power of a voice is a common theme that we as counselors run across in our field. I recall my own inner revelation of a stifled voice during my chaplaincy residency at Memorial Hermann. Some people fall on the other side of the spectrum due to their family of origin. Our family of origin often becomes our first teacher and influences how we use our voice. Our voice is either empowered or dismissed. With this being said, cultural values can also play a major role in how we use our voice. Furthermore, we are uniquely designed human beings who are in part a product of our environment. Nonetheless, we must realize the impact of an empowered or stifled voice. A stifled voice will leave a generation with no power or purpose, but an empowered voice will raise up a nation. An empowered voice also will birth a nation who speaks. I encourage you to journal some times throughout the week and write down opportunities where you failed to speak or you did. Journal the results!  

 So I leave you with this question: Will you build a legacy or continue a pathology?

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Written by: Erica Fulton

To Grieve or Not to Grieve What is the Problem

To Grieve or Not to Grieve

What is the Problem

 

If you need to grieve the lose of a loved one, pet, job or any other element that left your life abruptly, by all means, do what’s best for you. Often times, you feel like you are supposed to hold in your feelings of anger, sadness, happiness or acceptance. The stages of grief are unpredictable and individualized. Step #1 is to be familiar with the different ways grief can and will affect you, your life and others who support you.

Here are some normal but unusual reactions to grief:

  

#1 You are supposed to cry

Express your grief over a precious person, pet, item or event in the way that you need to. The objective is to get any feelings and emotions out that will hold you back from moving forward in life.

#2 You are supposed to be happy

Once again if you want to celebrate the transition of what you lost, GO AHEAD! Everyone grieves differently. Being happy doesn’t mean you loved any less than you do.

#3 You are supposed to move forward with ease

Being stuck is another symptom that grief can cause. Whatever and however long you need to process your life and what you need is your choice. Don’t be forced to move through your grief without setting realistic expectations for your next phase of life.

  

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The stages of grief and how you should be reacting can be tricky.

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Forget “13 Reasons Why” Try 3 Ways to Approach “The Suicide Talk”

Forget “13 Reasons Why” Try 3 Ways to Approach “The Suicide Talk”

Today the suicide rate of teens have increased drastically. According to USA Today (March 2018), “…suicidal thoughts and actions more than doubled from 2008 to 2015.” The mental health of youth is an important factor that needs to be addressed effectively and without shame.

I recently read an article that attributed the film and TV series “13 Reasons Why” to the increase of teen suicide. Realistically, the show cannot be the main contributing factor to the rise of teen suicide. The lack of sufficient and useful knowledge is the issue. It’s  time to look at how the conversation of suicide is approached.

#1 Research, Relate, Recite

The best way to talk about it is to know about it. The internet offers many reliable and credible sources to gain the knowledge you need about dealing with teen suicide. Try searching Amazon for some great books.

#2 Support and Success

Your local support groups and community resources can provide hope in a hopeless situation. Hearing others’ struggles and success stories can be very educational and eye opening to the reality of suicide and its effects. You can use Google to locate your nearest suicide support group. NAMI is another great community outreach resource. Remember if the first resource or support group does not fit your style, don’t give up, visit others until you find the right one.

#3 Do It The Professional Way

Don’t be ashamed to seek professional advice and guidance. Your local psychiatrist or therapist can give you the insight you need into suicide facts and prevention. The majority of EAPs and insurance will cover the fee for free. The sessions are confidential so don’t worry about who will know you attended a therapy session.

For immediate attention call the suicide prevention lifeline at 

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

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Do You Suffer From Mother’s Day Blues?

Do You Suffer From Mother’s Day Blues?

Love. Support. Nurture. Warmth. Heartfelt. Compassionate. Kind. Patient. Selfless. 

In a perfect world you would expect and even wish your Mother to be perfect all the time. The reality is…. Mothers are human too. Sometimes, under certain circumstances, a mother can be superwoman BUT she is not super human.

What causes the Mother’s Day Blues? Holding onto expired and undue grudges can turn a joyful Mother’s Day into a hopeless and lonely experience.

 

#1 Death

Grief over the loss of a mother can cause you to isolate yourself on the second Sunday of May. In order to enjoy the day, start filling your thoughts and feelings with all of the good memories you have about your special and precious motherly moments.

#2 Neglect

Let go of the woulda, coulda and shoulda that wasn’t present in the relationship. Not to excuse abusive and dangerous supervision that some mothers have and do provide, but you have the opportunity to live a better life. Seek the help that you need to process the neglect so that your life and joy can push forward.  

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#3 Disconnects

In some situations, the Mother was around but there was no bond. Lack of communication and quality time can ruin anticipations to spend time with Mothers. A more positive approach is to surround yourself with people who offer the type of motherly affection you desire. The most important thing is to connect with positivity and support.

  

 

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The Best Way to Make Life Easy

The Best Way to Make Life Easy

It's not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.

      -Hans Selye

Why let stress take you out? Even though there are good stressors, whether good or bad, your response to stress is important to your overall well-being. According to APA, most Americans are suffering from moderate to high stress. Obviously stress is not avoidable, so what can you do to manage stress?

#1 Stress can be simple. Don’t wait for situations to become complex and overwhelming. Tackle life’s issues as they come to you and one by one. Break it down into realistic chunks.

#2 Calm your stress. Soothe your overworked life by relaxing and being grateful in the present moment. Most stress is made up because you overthink or pre-think situations to be unbearable and worst case scenarios. Defeat faulty thoughts that create stress by thinking and being more appreciative of life and what you have.

#3 Live your life. Stop letting stress stop you from enjoying life. A lack of freedom burdens you down to feel like you cannot get anywhere. Breathe, Relax and Move Forward. Life is Lovely.

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Addiction is Seductive

Addiction is Seductive

Addiction is a battle that many lose to over and over again. The good news is….even though you may lose the battles, you can win the war.

One big challenge with addictive behaviors is that people mainly recognize only drugs and alcohol as the culprits. Today sex addiction is becoming more of an issue in relationships.

An article published on foxnews.com highlights the sex addiction of a former NFL football player Mike Caussin. His sex addiction has caused marital issues between him and wife Jana Kramer. Within the article the couple mention a few pointers to shed light about how to overcome sex addiction within a marriage.

This is what happens when you don’t face your addiction.

#1 Shame On You!

Most people don’t seek help for addictions because it will cause shame and embarrassment. The true shame of addiction occurs when you don’t admit you have an issue and when you don’t seek the treatment you need.

#2 A Rocky Family.

Active and continuous addictive behaviors when left untreated will cause family instability. Addiction doesn’t just affect the prime participant, it has adverse emotional and physical effects on all family members.

#3 You lose.

Addictive behaviors cause you to become ineffective in significant areas of your life. When you fail to properly address the issues of addiction your lifestyle goes down. You lose financial, material, relationships, careers, family and most importantly you lose YOURSELF.

Everybody knows somebody. Battles with addiction should not be faced alone.

Contact your local community rehabilitation center or visit GMC resources page at www.ginmanconsulting.com for more information.

3 Ways Overthinking Helps You Level Up to Make More Money

3 Ways Overthinking Helps You Level Up to Make More Money

Everyone wants to be able to make lots of moola. When you are over eager & anxious to bring in more money, you can let the millions of thoughts that flow through your mind outweigh your plans to prosperity. Overthinking is not necessarily a bad thing when you make it work for you instead of against you.

I have experienced overwhelm and overthinking while trying to make more money. As a school teacher, I made a decent living, but I knew there was lots of untapped potential to make more money in education. I returned to school, got a Master’s and began my quest to gain more money through promotions and raises. For two to three painful years, I tried and tried to make more money but was unsuccessful at gaining the promotions I applied for. I was highly qualified but let the tendency to overthink trick me out of my ability to make more money.  One of my biggest weakness was overthinking that the skills I had DID NOT make me capable of performing the job I was applying for. Since I was a first generational EVERYTHING, I kept telling myself I was not good enough. I would actually be in an interview and my mind would be going 100 miles an hour thinking about why I would not get the job. My thoughts won! I did not get the promotions I applied for... over and over again.

Today, I now am able to rationally use my overthinking to get the money I deserve. Below are some of the same exact tips I used to take advantage of my overworked brain.

Tip #1

Use Those Creative Ideas. Mentally it feels like your brain just will not work with you. Your mind just will not slow down. In the mist of all of those chaotic thoughts, is creativity. You can form the abundance of thoughts into a healthy mapped out money making blueprint. (Click HERE to Download the FREE …. Blueprint). 1^st List all of your ideas as bullet points. It does not have to be in any specific order so stop trying. Then the next day, revisit the ideas and pick the top 3 that will be beneficial to your quest to make more money within the next few weeks. 

Tip #2

Right Your Wrongs. Your faulty thoughts are helping you make the wrong choices about the right actions to take. You already have told yourself obsessively that you have all of what is wrong. You have been worrying about all of the weaknesses for days and possibly years. Creatively reword those “wrongs” into a list of your strengths. For example, instead of overthinking that you are not a good communicator, state that you are a great communicator because you carefully select your words before speaking. Flip the flops.

Tip #3

Take your strengths to the 2^nd Power. Don’t label your potential to overthink as a weakness. Overthinking, when used effectively and strategically, can place you on a platform above co-workers and competition.    

Don’t insecurely hide behind your abundance of knowledge aka overthinking. Use your creative greatness. Think about positive ways to present those unique ideas to your supervisor or into your business. It can be your above the norm driving force to make more money. Money making ventures exist at the very brink of where no one else is brave enough to think because of fear… except the over-thinker.       

Check this scenario out! Suppose you want to ask for a promotion but continue to let overthinking stop you. Make a list of your beliefs about what can go wrong when you ask for a promotion. Maybe you are worried about the supervisor focusing on a project that you submitted late. An overthought is the wrong way to approach a promotion. Instead focus on the benefits you gained from being a little late on the project such as the increase in sales that resulted.

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